The road to recovery is only one step toward a more positive, fulfilling future ahead. But it is a great leap forward, so you should be proud of yourself for that achievement alone. After recovery, it is important for you to have a solid group of people surrounding you. You may find that many of the people you once called your loved ones have drifted away from you because of your addictive behaviour. This is common and caused by the lack of trust that happens during your addiction. It is not uncommon for your family and friends to look at you with resentment, even after you have done all the work to better yourself and come out successful in your recovery.
It is important not to worry. It is possible to rebuild that trust in your relationship’s again. You just need to have a positive outlook, and know that it's going to take time and patience to heal all the wounds.
Make amends with yourself
You are the most important person at the end of the day. You know you have messed up and made mistakes. It’s human. Forgive yourself. It’s not about excusing your behaviour but acknowledging you can grow from it. Forgiving yourself will build a great foundation for others to forgive you.
Open up to your loved ones
Recovery is not a one-sided process. Your friends and family are important to your recovery. This is not to say that they need to be involved all of the time, because it is important to be with yourself and turn inward to heal. But, if you share your feelings and communicate with them it will make them feel included in the process. Being absolutely honest about where you are mentally and emotionally is one step toward regaining that trust. And don’t worry if it’s not easy at first. Being closed off is much easier for people and they may turn away from their loved ones out of embarrassment. Breaking down the wall you have built up can be challenging, but you can do it. You just have to take little steps with your communication and eventually you will open up to them in a much more successful way.
Own up to your actions
Acknowledge when you have hurt someone in your life and taking actions to mend the wounds. Reaching out to someone and taking accountability for your actions will show them you have grown and are ready to repair the relationship. It’s important to not expect the same reaction from everyone; some people will not be able to forgive and unfortunately you cannot change that.
Owning up also includes tremendous amounts of listening. Let the person tell you how you hurt them. This will help you understand the impact of your actions much better. This isn’t a time to defend yourself. Truly listen. Take in what they are saying and make them feel understood. Ask them what you can do to help be better. After all, communication is required for relationships to prosper.
Find similar stories
Sometimes your family and friends don’t understand what you’ve been through. So seeking out a support group, or an online blog from a recovered addict, is a great way to hear from people who have been through a similar situation to you. Hearing other stories will reassure you that you are not alone. It is also a place to learn from people who may have rebuilt the trust in their relationships.